3 Bedroom Bungalow to Let in Crazytown: Military Life Rambling

Thursday, March 25, 2010

Military Life Rambling

I hear and read about trivial complaints everyday. It has gotten to the point where I just keep my mouth shut. I could scream "Do you want to take my place?" Of course I don't, cause that isn't my style. I would rather stew. Then I think, "Geez o peet. Really, I am getting off easy. My husband is on an air base. He isn't doing foot patrols. He will be back in just a few months rather than doing a year rotation like a soldier in the Army and Marines." Then I feel guilty. Should I feel guilty though?

I am jealous. I am jealous that others get a "normal" life. My families life will never be "normal". We will always live like nomads roaming from base to base. My husband will always be gone for stretches at a time. We will always celebrate most holidays either alone or by traveling to see family or friends who live hours away by plane or car. I will miss weddings and funerals. My kids will get to know their grandparents by chatting to them on Skype and through all too short visits. I sometimes wish for a "normal" husband with a "normal" nine to five job. Then I realize that I wouldn't be me without this crazy and definitely not "normal" life.

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Brandi · 784 weeks ago

I know how you feel. I finally made it across the country to live with my husband, and now we are about to move again. Then he is going to be deployed. Sometimes it is really hard, but I try to remember all of the things me and my children get to do and see because of this lifestyle we have chosen. And above all I am simply greatful that my husband has a job doing something he loves that pays our bills.

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SueAnn · 784 weeks ago

It has got to be so difficult living like a nomad. Especially for the kids! I would be beside myself! I don't think I could do it. I applaud you!!
Hugs
SueAnn

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Marsha · 784 weeks ago

My son-in-law just deployed. My daughter and granddaughter are on their way to my house for about 6 months. Oh, and I guess I didn't mention the granddog and grandfish that are arriving.

I honestly don't get the impression that being away from the family or family events bothers my daughter all too much, I appreciate that you feel the loss.

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Aunt Juicebox · 784 weeks ago

I know it's a hard life, but I appreciate that you are willing to do it. We need our soldiers and those soldiers need wives and families to love them and be there for them just like everyone else. I'm glad your husband has you - some men aren't as lucky.

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muummmeeeee! · 784 weeks ago

I really admire you and other military families. The sacrifices made are so much greater than just a beloved member of the family willing to risk their life in far flung corners of the world x

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Mom in High Heels · 784 weeks ago

You know what? I think "normal" is overrated. Who's to say what's normal anyway. Yes, sometimes it does suck having to miss things because you're away, but look at what you get to do and see. I have nieces and nephews who've never been out of the State they were born in. Ds has been to 12 States, and 6 countries. In May we're going on an 11 night cruise, where he will add another 5 countries to his list. He's gotten to see things most adults we know have never even thought of.
I do understand the need to gripe though. There are days it's tiring and stressful and if you need to gripe and moan, feel free.

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WeaselMomma · 784 weeks ago

The grass is always greener.....
You are making sacrifices. More than some and less then others. Love that hubs is safe without guilt and know that you are still making sacrifices that sometimes suck. It all makes you, you and that I am grateful for.

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Heather · 784 weeks ago

I agree with you so much that I could have written this post myself! Military life isn't for the weak hearted. As spouses, we are the strengthe behind our husbands' careers. Sometimes I wish the same thing, that my husband had a "normal" job and we led a "normal" life, but then I think how boring that would be. I try to weigh the pros and cons, and somehow, the pros usually win out. Great post!

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SmittenbyBritain 71p · 784 weeks ago

Kat you are stronger than me. I know that I could not have done it which is why I got out after my son is born. Once in a while I still have a bad dream that I'm still in the military and get deployed, leaving Ian behind. I've woke up crying before. Honestly. I think what you feel is perfectly normal. I know I had experiences that I wouldn't change for the world but I also know I missed out on some things. I think sometimes no matter what we do we have regrets.
One thing for sure though, I'm damn glad there are people like your husband and your family who are brave and willing to sacrifice for their country. Thanks hun. x

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Captain Dumbass · 784 weeks ago

Ah... it's not the life that's crazy and not normal.

Just saying.

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Jenni · 784 weeks ago

You are a stronger woman than I am, for sure. Hugs to you, Momma.

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Mad Woman · 784 weeks ago

I grew up living the military life with my dad gone on and off and I always said I didn't think I could have been my mom. I still say it. Hats off to you, you're a strong woman. Stronger than me.

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Amanda · 784 weeks ago

No, you don't need to feel guilty. Feelings are feelings and sometimes you can't help it. There is always going to be someone who has it easier; there is always going to be someone who has it harder. And isn't it really all subjective anyway?

We all have these moments. Hopefully you can work your way through them soon. In the meantime, I hope it helps to know that you aren't alone. :)

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rurhibelle · 783 weeks ago

it has got to be hard, but hang in there. ?It's great how u can appreciate the purpose in our situation. I appreciate that :-)

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Sandy · 783 weeks ago

Again I want to say thank you to you, your husband and your family for the sacrifices you make. All to many of us in the US are unaffected by the war and all the associated men and women who serve. We need to be reminded ON A DAILY basis. So go on and ramble/rant. We'll be listening.

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Nancy Needham · 783 weeks ago

I understand, I understand. just lean on me.

XOXO
Granny

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